As we continue our adventure this week, we are going to look at the “Servant’s Heart” as our topic BUT from a different view. I am not sure I have heard others go this route with this topic much; but that might be the problem.
Let’s be frank about today’s topic! If I were to ask you how your spouse is in the serving area, many would probably have an instant list. Now I know some are doing pretty good, so I can’t put an “all in one group” but no matter what, there is always room for improvement. (But we can’t improve what we won’t admit.)
No let’s go into the home of my fictional family and see how things are going. Bob didn’t grow up in one of those loving tightknit family homes. His life was much different – but so was his wife’s, Dominique’s life. I guess to describe their homes and how they each grew up, would be to say they were polar opposites. So it is dinner time at their house and the table is set and following a great meal, he leaves the kitchen to engage in the normal nightly routines he has done for years. She is cleaning and storing away food and loading the dishwasher and finally finishes to go relax. She joins Bob in the family room where he is plotting his dreams on paper and dreaming big, like there is no tomorrow. He tries to engage Dominique into what he is doing but she does not see the real importance of it, so he stops trying. The next day, Bob is up and this morning the house is buzzing. Kids and pets are running to stay out of the way of mom and dad as they run back and forth doing what they need to and not enjoying the moment of each other’s company. I will stop there, but in some later post, we might come and visit again.
Many times we know what we need to change in us, but we dig into the book of old excuses and say things like “I was not raised that way” or other such things. We also don’t see the passion of another’s dream or the cry of a lost heart and so we don’t take a few moments to engage with them in their dreams. Whatever the story of your life and marriage might be, you have no good excuse for not serving the other to the fullest! You might try and give a lot of weak excuses, but that won’t hold any weight except in your own mind.
Now I’m not trying to be cold, but trying to be blunt and head in with this: in Romans 12:1 & 2, the Bible talks about the renewing of the mind. We can take this down many paths and my last 5 blog posts have shown you that. But when we renew our minds, we are to completely renew them and not hold onto the excuses that help us escape; we need to get around to being 100% engaged in our spouse’s life.
I think spouses should set down together and talk about where they need to improve. Not once or once a year, but often. The best person to tell you this information is not yourself 🙂 This is not an easy task, BUT the fruit of it could be life changing IF you listen and adapt.
We are called to serve in every area and especially with our spouses and families. If we can’t serve there, then how can we truly serve others?
So how’s your servant’s heart in and out of home? What could you change to fill in those cracks that are long overdue in getting filled? This is all a part of the renewing the mind.
I believe our life is truly meant to be the greatest adventure novel waiting to be written as we live it out. So start living the best life possible NOW on purpose with purpose. Live with no regrets and love without boundaries. Hold nothing back and charge life head on. I am excited for what’s next, because the excitement of anticipation and not knowing of what is next is what births each breath in life.
So stand strong, live life loud and bold! Take this new day gladiator style, ruling and reigning it and not letting it reign you.
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