Redefining Your Life is Not as Hard as You Think

 

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The greatest gift we guys can ever give to ourselves, and to our family and friends, is to live this life the best we can!

When 2016 started, many did the traditional New Year’s resolutions and right away fell into a statistic of failed resolutions that is shared by many around the world. Now I know that it is not on purpose but it is a matter of fact, that many make big promises with little results. Losing weight, kicking habits, or just becoming a better version of oneself is not to be reserved for a once a year event, but instead, to be walked out daily.

I have done this year after year, until in 2015 when I took a different path and chose a word and made it my focus for the year. In 2015, the word was “Simplify” and I made some steps throughout the year to simplify my daily world. However, by the end of the year, I discovered that simplifying my life turned into a lifestyle I wanted to embrace.

Now we enter into 2016 and I found the word “Purpose” saying, “Pick me, pick me” and so I did! Purpose can simply be defined as the very reason we exist.

Now purpose for me as a husband, father, friend, public speaker, coach, mentor, CEO for a non-profit, entrepreneur, writer and podcaster is very important and that is the reason for the title of this article. There will never be a life well lived if the purpose for that life is never found, embraced and then walked out.

Sometimes just some small changes can help us redefine the life we are living and here are just a few ideas.

  1. Stop sweating the small stuff. Even though this is an old statement, it is one of great truth. People die daily stressing over things they can’t change. We have got to decide once and for all, “If I can’t change it, I’m not going to stress over it”. Worrying will not change anything BUT our health!
  1. Never allow another to decide the value of you. I myself for years based my worth on what others thought about me. When that is the case, then the life we live will be purely based on what others allow. We must take control of our lives and get off the emotional roller coaster once and for all.
  1. Living life forward creates a sense of value that is life changing all its own. A great way of doing this is by serving others. It could be volunteering your time in your community, at your church, your child’s school, etc. and as we do this, we soon find that we forget about us and our problems and get a new perspective on life. That new perspective could be all we needed to put us on track to living that well lived life.
  1. Be true to you. You’re one of a kind, a masterpiece and so live like it. Stop being a follower of the crowds and start blazing a new trail.
  1. Be adaptable and flexible and learn to flow with the waves and not against them. I think that many feel that if they become adaptable then they are giving up control of their own lives. But that’s so far from the truth! Being adaptable or flexible simply means we are flowing with life, which is better, and not becoming like a ship in the ocean being battered from all sides by the waves that surround it.
  1. Learn to love you because if you don’t find yourself lovable, how can anyone else! If you can’t stand to be around yourself, then how can we expect anyone else to want to be? Many live life with a love/hate relationship with themselves that seeps out and onto other relationships unless we come to terms with our own selves.

These are of course not the end all answers, but simply suggestions to a new start in living a life well lived.

So today, start living your life on purpose with purpose. It truly is up to you!

This article originally appeared on http://goodmenproject.com/ on January 6, 2016

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Who am I and what am I doing?

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I’m really pumped about this guest post! It’s from the founder of P31 Fitness, Rachel Curtis. My wife is a part of one of the P31 groups here in Texas and she has not been just physically blessed but also spiritually blessed. My daughter Ashley, has now started her own P31 group where she lives in Biloxi, Mississippi. P31 stands for Proverbs 31 and as we all know, it is talking to the women; but guys, don’t stop here – because YOU need this maybe even more than the ladies do! I know you will be blessed by this post, so read on and check out the links below at the end!!!!! Blessings – Keith

I used to think I was alone in this struggle. I used to think that I was the only one who questioned myself and what I am doing each day. But now I see clearly that is just a lie. Most everyone struggles with this at some point in their life! I think somehow we believe a lie that we are alone, that we are the only one that struggles, and I am sure we have all felt like we should just give up. I’m going to be really open and real in this post in hopes that it may bless someone – even just one person – that reads these words.

Do you know who you are? When you are by yourself, and no one is around – are you okay with who you are? Do you let yourself be impacted by other people’s reactions to you? Do you let yourself be impacted by what you think people may be thinking about you?

I will have to say there are times in my life that I know who I am REALLY well, and then there are times that I have NO CLUE – been there? I look back and find that it is in the times when things seem to be sailing smoothly along that I feel the most “sure” of myself. When things are rocky, I am very unsure. So unsure that I want to run far away.… like so far away that no one can find me!! Been there?

Why does this happen to us? Why do we sometimes change like the wind in our confidence and purpose? Why do we question who we are?

For me, I find myself questioning small parts of myself. When I really stop to think about this, the things I am questioning are VERY small parts of myself! Parts that really are pretty insignificant. I can have GREAT things going for me, great successes, feelings of love, relationships are good, but then one LITTLE thing can make me feel like a complete failure! Maybe it was something someone said or didn’t say! Maybe it was just a feeling of insecurity that came up inside of me. Maybe it was…well….anything! I am tired of feeling this way, and I am sure you are too!

Today I challenge myself and I challenge all of you to find a stronger foundation on which we are basing our feelings. To rest in a foundation that doesn’t change based on how we perceive our world that day. To be confident in the creatures that God has designed us to be. Not comparing, not wishing, not striving, not questioning….just resting in who we are. Every part of who we are.

What if we stopped worrying about what others think and started being thankful for who we are? What if we stopped looking for the spotlight and attention, and started letting the true light inside of us shine out to the world? I read a quote that was great, “People who shine from within don’t need the spotlight”. Powerful stuff!! So, I ask us all… are we shining from within today? Are we confident in who we are? Are we peaceful?

I hope you have been challenged by these words to recognize your worth and your purpose…. all without shame, and without insecurity. I know that if we would do this, the world would be a better place because it would see our TRUE selves!! We are enough, we do enough, we were made just as we should have been made! That is good. That is peace. That is light.

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About Rachel Curtis
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Married to Braughn Curtis, she is a mom to 4 wonderful blessings, Madison, Jaxon, Taylor and Reagan. Braughn and Rachel also own Custom Team Bags, LLC in Trenton, Texas.

Rachel is an ACE Certified Personal Trainer, ACE Certified Lifestyle and Weight Management, BS in Exercise Science and Nutrition, Certified P31 Fitness Trainer, Certified Health Promotions Directory from the Cooper Institute.

As a past teacher and a coach, Rachel has always been interested in helping others with their fitness and health. She held various fitness classes for women in school gyms, cafeterias, and more. When a teacher requested a summer bootcamp, Rachel set up registration. Expecting a smaller group, she was amazed when 110 women came for an intense, challenging summer of bootcamp workouts. The women worked hard, learned about whole health, and wanted to continue. At that point, Rachel and her husband, Braughn, saw the intense need for a program designed specifically for women – all types, all levels, and all areas of health. Braughn and Rachel worked diligently to develop a program based upon Biblical principals of truth. They have enjoyed building the program into a franchised based business, and want to provide opportunities for others to bless women in their towns and communities.

It is a way for trainers and franchise owners alike to get to do what they love – bless others with the gift of health in all areas and empower women to experience freedom and understand their worth in God’s eyes!