Welcome to Part 2 of my series on “Kingdom Relationships”. I mentioned in Part 1 (CLICK HERE TO READ) that after reading comments from the pictures I put on Facebook from my Anniversary Date Day on May 1st, I was led in my heart to start this series. The response from part 1 was very humbling and I pray that this one will resonate with those that have ears to hear. So away we go!!!!
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
Ephesians 5:25 (AMP)
When I read that above scripture, it screams the title of this post, “ALL OR NOTHING”! Jesus gave everything by what He did on the cross. So when I read in Ephesians 5 how God is describing marriage and see in verse 25 where it says He “gave Himself,” I see it telling us we are to do the very same. Marriage is a 100% deal or it will never be what God intended it to be – a Kingdom Relationship.
Typical society has the Tom Cruise mentality from Jerry Maguire where he told his female co-star, “You complete me”. For a season of my life, I bought into that myself that we each brought 50% and together we made 100%, which offered a complete relationship. Honestly, God created us 100% because in Genesis 1:26-28 He said, “He made us in His Image and likeness.” (CLICK HERE TO READ). SO with that said, if His image is whole and complete, then so is yours by default or design. We are to enter into marriage 100%, giving 100%, and I believe if we do this, then marriage statistics in the US would totally change.
I love the song John Legend wrote, ALL OF ME.
So what does it mean to have an “all-in attitude” in your marriage? That nothing or no one comes before your spouse other than God. The desire to serve over being served, is what you attempt to do in your daily walk of life. You are willing to put your dreams, wants, and desires on hold to help your spouse achieve theirs. You’re attentive to how you can help and don’t wait to be asked. This list could keep going on and on just like the Energizer Bunny, but I think you get the point.
Now please know that the point of this post is NOT to make someone feel less than, BUT instead, to awaken ones heart to the type of love and passion that was crafted in us by design. A love that is perfected not by getting our needs met, but instead, by meeting the very needs of our partner on this adventure we call life.
So as “TWO BECOME ONE” and have an “ALL OR NOTHING” attitude, then and only then will we see the true path to a Kingdom Relationship.
I want to encourage you to spend time with your spouse reading these posts and discussing how they are speaking to you. Be sure you have open ears to hear and an open heart of love and grace.
So that’s it, FOR NOW, but this adventure has only just begun! =)