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Faith, Fact OR Fear

Faith, fact or fear

Faith, Fact OR Fear

Today I shared at Living Water Teaching’s US Headquarters, in Caddo Mills, TX on “Faith, Fact OR Fear”.  Please go check it out and also help me get this teaching out to as many as possible.

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Greatness Through Serving

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“Greatness Through Serving”

Today I shared at Living Water Teaching’s US Headquarters, in Caddo Mills, TX on “Greatness Through Serving”.  I used Matthew 20:20-28 as my reference.  I believe with all my heart that TRUE & LASTING greatness only comes through serving others!

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I would love to hear from you on your thoughts on serving and also how you would define it, below.

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“Growing Pains” in your marriage =)

 

 

My wife, Debbie, and I just attended a really great marriage conference hosted by Kirk Cameron, and with special music by Warren Barfield. (You can CLICK HERE and find out more about this conference and upcoming events.) It was a really great date night for us and I wanted to share with the guys out there, what I walked away with from this event.

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Before the main conference started, we had the opportunity to go to a VIP time where Kirk spoke to a small group of us and then did an autograph session afterwards. It was really cool to meet him!

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As I looked around at all of the couples in the room, I wondered what their relationships were like. Now as for me, I’m married to my best friend. We did not spend our childhood growing up together, but when we met, something just clicked. I would say that, YES, it was love at first sight, at least for me =) But let me add, that the road to where we are 23 years later from that first date, has not always been an easy one. I have told on myself many times in my writings and probably will have many more times to do that, but that is not the point of this post. Our journey, although one filled with lots of good, bad and sometimes ugly encounters, always seems to just get stronger and stronger, in our love for one another.

One of the highlights of the night, was when Warren Barfield sang “Love is not a Fight”. I know most of you have probably heard this song, but if you have not, I would recommend CLICKING HERE to go listen to it; truly listen to the words! I know that all couples are at different places and have traveled different journeys, but I believe that Warren’s song says it all, “Love is worth fighting for”!!

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Kirk spoke a simple to follow and easy to understand message all based on one scripture. He used 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJ) “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” Now I’m sure if you compared notes with my wife and others there that night, we all had a different take on what he was saying, but I’m going to share in this post what I walked away with.

Here are 6 points based on this scripture:

  1. Dwell with them” – Spend time with her, invest time getting to know the uniqueness of the person she is. Our investment into our spouse, is important and will strengthen and grow our relationship.
  2. Understanding” – To understand anything in life we have to grow in the knowledge of it. We should know her, her likes and dislikes, favorite color and so on. Feeling understood is important to almost everyone and so who best should understand your wife, than you?
  3. Honor” – We as guys, need to move beyond respect and actually honor our wives. We honor her by how we treat her, both in private and public. Both when we are with her and when we are apart. We should NEVER make her the punch line of our jokes and she should never be seen by others as being less than the most important person or thing in our life, second only to God. She is NOT your sister, so remember that in how you treat her. Kirk mentioned that we should inventory all that she does. Start making a written list of all that she does around the house, what she does for you and the children and what she does for others and when that list is finished, you should make sure she knows that she is 100% appreciated.
  4. Weaker vessel” – Now never think for a moment, that this means that this weakness dictates your right to control her! You’re called by God to be a leader and not a dictator; she can’t follow someone who is not leading her somewhere! I see it as a reference to the fragileness as that of the finest china or other precious item. We should have our wives backs and never allow anyone to make her feel like she has been backed into a corner. I myself have failed at this one and when I think back to those times, I cringe! We should ensure that she feels safe and bring peace to the situations of life. This is one place that my heart was convicted strongly of at the conference. There have been times that we have been driving and Debbie has gotten scared over something I or another driver might have done and instead of comforting and making her feel secure, I responded negatively and got offended.
  5. Grace of life” – Our love for our wives should be just as God’s love is for us. It should be FREE and not based on what she says and does, but solely on what I know I’m supposed to do and be. Grace defined to me, is simply unmerited favor and kindness. So again, it’s FREE!
  6. Prayers not be hindered” – Now I don’t believe God turns His back on His kiddos, but I do believe that we can close the door on our blessings. Our love walk is key to the success of all that we put our hands to do. Marriage, business, all areas; so with that said, I believe that if we are not walking in love, then everything is pretty much going to be out of whack and spiraling downhill for us.

These 6 areas I believe are key to having a healthy and blessed marriage and making your wife feel like the queen she is. Always remember that she was God’s daughter before she was your wife! I see God’s grace in this, because if someone hurts my daughter, then they might get to see a side of me that might be very surprising and if God created all things by His words, then I’m sure He could relocate things by His words. Just saying! =)

We need to take responsibility as the God ordained leaders we have been called and created to be. We need to take responsibility for our actions and today, make right the wrongs and ask forgiveness for any areas we have fallen short in.

Make consistency the new normal in these areas and watch your marriage become the one God wants you to have.

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Two in, Two out

Welcome to another episode in the KINGDOM RELATIONSHIP series. If this is your first time to read on this series, I will post links below for you to catch up. So buckle-up and away we go!
And Two Shall Become One…
All Or Nothing!

It does not take long for a person to realize that life seems to come with its fair share of opportunities. These may be good, bad, or really, really ugly, but no matter what it is that life brings us, we as husband and wife should never be in the mix of it alone.

We could use the fire fighter thought process that says, “We never enter into the fire alone”; or I also like the military term, “battle buddy”. Whichever thought process you want to take, they both dictate that two are better than one and this holds true in marriage. Far too often, people walk through the fires of life alone or slay the dragon of the day with no one having their backs.

I myself have been blessed with an amazing wife, one who has stuck by my side through this adventure we call life. Debbie and I have fought some enormous fires, slayed some vicious dragons, and walked away with some battle wounds, BUT we have also grown closer together during those times. We meant it when we said, “for better or for worse”. In fact, in the first post in this series, I dedicated it to my amazing wife, because without her I would not be the man I am today! THANKS Mi Amor!

Too often, a spouse becomes a casualty in the battles of life, because day after day they are in the trenches with no support. This is what happens when we stop focusing on what is truly important or should I say the one who is the most important, which is God first and then our spouse. Nothing should be placed before your spouse other than God, NOTHING!

Our greatest example of true love is in John 3:16 “For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten ([a]unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life.” You see, Kingdom love does not have a limit or reservation in how much is to be given. Christ gave it all at the cross and daily we are to do the same. We should end each day knowing we gave ALL we could, love without reservation, especially in our relationship with first God, then our spouse, kiddos, then family and friends. I think you get the picture I am painting here.

Kingdom love is not something that should have to be earned and it can never be purchased. It also cannot be ruled with a dictator mindset. Guys, I know the Word says that we are to be the head, BUT that place of great honor cannot be forced, it must be revealed through your daily walk with God and your expressions and attitude of love that is shown.

I’m going to end with this for now. A failed relationship means that God was not put first. When God is first in our lives, then I believe that everything else will fall into place. One of the ways we put Him first, is by seeking Him daily in the Word and through this we get revelation and insight on how to be the spouse He has called us to be. Marriage is a “God ordained covenant” between a man and a woman. It was never meant that we marry someone and not walk hand in hand, and side by side through the journey of life.

Question: What has your journey in life revealed to you about your marriage?

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